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Fussy 'mussy'

We all live in a fussy world. I mean, let's face it, we are surrounded by fussy people with fussy procedures to rule our lives and fussy issues that just keep popping up every now and then. I admit that I AM a fussy person (guess you can tell that from my blog huh? ;p). So, who else is better to write about this topic other than me?

First of all, let's define who actually fall into this fussy group. According to Hyperdictionary, those who are fussy can be perversely irritable. Why? They can go on and on babbling about their coiffure that didn't turn out to be as they expected, or how the cashier gave him change 20 cents short or how emotionally scarred she is when her favourite singer is voted out of a reality show or how the salary is far from enough to support the family (the list really goes on). Expressions like 'making a mountain out of a molehill', 'beating around the bush' and 'sore to the ears' aptly describe those who are fussy.

So, where can fussy people express their grievances and complaints? In other words, where can they unstuck this nail from their bottoms? Well, for starters, customers hotline, comments boxes and emails are there for a reason. Then, there's this blog phenomena where people can babble, nag and yack to hundreds or thousands of people without having to utter a single word. Though of course, not all blogs are about trivial stuffs mind you. There are those which feature serious issues and topics for discussion. As for mine, I see it as a mixed of everything - for some issues, I may laugh one day at how silly I was to be bragging about them; for other topics, they may provide me (and hopefully, readers too) with useful information and nostalgia on my drawing and writing collections.

However, let's not forget that sometimes, fussy stuffs are meant to safeguard us or to smooth things up. After all, one man's trivial is another man's crucial. For examples, some may think that wearing seatbelts or helmets while on the roads or filling up a form in BLACK CAPITAL LETTERS only as petty but such regulations are there to save lives and to save time.

So, what makes people fussy?

1. They try to avoid dealing with much bigger issues. My sketches above is a great analogy (I think). A man complaints about chips lying around on the floor when his whole house is actually one big mess and in need of an extreme makeover - fast!

2. They are too self-centred. Everything is about them. It is extremely difficult to please them. They lack emotional intelligence. They never put themselves in the shoes of others. They always think that bad things (despite how minute they are) should never happen to them. They are not grateful for what they have and everything must be either their way or the highway.

3. They may show kindness towards others but they are actually snobbish in reality. For example, an employer may scold the maid harshly just because the maid missed a spot, or a nosy staff who likes to find the small mistakes of colleagues and lets the boss knows about it.

4. Those who are facing some personal problems may become fussy about things in order to attract other people's attention or as a way to express their (hidden) feelings or in some cases, so that their fussiness would cause other people to leave them alone (since depressed people tend to think that nobody really cares about them). For example, parents may nag about their daughter who's still not yet married not because they enjoy doing so, but because that is how they show their worries over the daughter's future.

5. Some may drag frivolous issues just so that people would forget about bigger issues or as a mode to disunite the society.

6. A motivator once said in a seminar that it really annoys him when bosses like to snoop around in case they can catch their staff red-handed or those who like to make big issues out of small matters. In my opinion, bosses like these and those who run such companies are in desperate need for management and leadership trainings or something.

Why we should not be fussy? People may avoid and misunderstand us; being fussy increases the risk of getting a heart attack, high blood pressure and the like; a fussy person would cause unnecessary stress to other people; employees may make a noise or resign at the slightest dissatisfaction (especially if there's not much benefits to please them in the first place); children may become rebellious; and bigger/much serious issues may not be given enough attention than it should or they may be totally discarded away.

So, if fussy people are getting on your nerves, perhaps it helps to think of them as Hippopotamus.

Labels: Fussy, Life

posted by The Pisces Man @ 8:19 pm