Penguin RushIrrational Fears? (reworded)
Today, 23 March 2007 is the expected delivery date for my wife. However, still no big signs yet that our little kiddo is coming out into this world. It is said that mothers tend to genetically inherit their mothers' pattern of delivery of whether delivering earlier or later than the expected dates. So, we'll pray and wait with bated breath, for that day to come as smoothly as possible, Insha' Allah...
I read that, despite arming ourselves with theories and practicals on raising the children, would-be-parents still have fears over how they would fare as parents. How about you, especially those of you parents out there, did or do you feel the same way too? Among some of the common fears are:
1. the bad influence of society would somewhat deviate their children's path from Islamic and moral values, one way or another,
2. some parents totally forbid their children from getting a motorbike license, let alone own one. However they would still fear that the children would secretly ride motorcycles without their knowledge (with regard to this matter, I'm still not sure about my wife, but I am sooooooooooo against riding this unstable, two-wheeled machine),
3. the current trend sees school children competing each other to get as many A's as possible in their exams (although God knows whether these students actually understand fully what they have memorised) and with such stiff competition, parents worry if their children would find this whole A's rat race too burdensome,
4. their children don't see them as their hero, their role model; as someone to look up to,
5. when the time comes, the children would one day need to face the harsh realities of the world, starting with their school years,
6. when they grow up, they would have to find their 'ideal' future husbands and wives and sometimes, blind love can cover a person's eyes from distinguishing what's right and what's wrong,
7. raising the children would somewhat cause unnecessary strains to the marriage,
8. how can they know if they have become over protective, too strict or too lenient towards their children - in other words, they kinda' 'screw up' without consciously realising it?,
9. their children won't share their problems/issues with the parents, but instead with the wrong people or they bottle things up inside,
10. their children fear the parents too excessively, instead of seeing them as parents-cum-buddies whom they can get closed to and talk to, about almost everything under the sun.
Labels: Cartoons, My Children, My Families, Parental
posted by The Pisces Man @ 6:13 am
14 Comments:
berfikiran jauh betul abdun ni... yg tatahan tu takut anak dia mintak motor tuh... hehe....
anyway.... kain yg putih senang nak dicorakkan rite?! kalo cantik awak lukis, cantik la jadi nya... ;)
semoga isteri selamat melahirkan anak yg soleh/ah... aminn~~!!
Ello Baby, haah, berfikiran jauh ya aku nih..! Tu la, harap2x aku dan wife dapat kalerkan kain putih tu jadi painting yang berkualiti tinggi dunia akhirat la hendaknya...
Speaking of painting, cantik tak lukisan aku kali ni? Hint: Mintak dipuji lah nih... hehehee...
you worry too much, my friend. just enjoy raising your kid.
Abdun, get a grip, man. And be careful what u wish and pray for. Setiap yg akan jadi adalah a test from God to u and anak2 are one of them. U know what u should do? rather than rambling about ur worries for something that is beyond ur capabilities, go and get wudhu' (ablution) and do lotsa prayers and read the quran.
Betul la like what i've mentioned before, all these father-to-be issues have taken its toll on u laa abdun. Inshallah, u gonna be a good father. It's part of ur learning process to grasp ur role and ur responsibility towards ur children. Not everything is by the book. Nonetheless, be prepared to make ur kids understand that u r their father. If ur father can do it, so can u.
Both u and ur wife will share the burdens of raising them. Get ready to spare more energy, patience and money for them!
Coldfeet eh? Datuk Dr. Fazila Kamsah may have some answers for ur worries. And like u've said before in one of r entries that children are the gift from God. No matter how hard u want them to be the way u want it, they are also an individual. From what i know, good parental efforts will reap the deserving reward in time.
today dah 25th...
dah banak ke lom bini ko?
x sabau2 akak nak tengok yr first child!!! congrates!!
Mr. Incognito - ok, I'll stop worrying when there is no need to... Thanx!
Kak Red, lum lagi lah..... I'll keep you updated, tq.
Manal, thanx for your inputs. We both really appreciate your advices, tho' I worry more compared to my wife...
hihih.. bagilah sikit.. cantikkk...~~!!
Baby, u want me to draw you? Hehe...
Manal, after thinking over what you have said, I've decided to reword this entry. Hopefully, it's something that most parents would feel every now and then.
Has your wife given birth yet?
Ija... lum lagi ler.. will let u know.. :)
Askm Abdun..
At the end of the day, TAQWA & IMAN count most. Provide the kids with these, insyaAllah the rest will follow. You may want to visit saifulislam.com and read his entries on raising children, and life as a whole. For me, his articles are very soothing :)
Wksm Shiha,
thanx for the inputs...
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